Tuesday was census night
Woman were asked how many children they had given birth to
But there was only a box to answer live borns
This census question hit hard
It was upsetting
Whilst I understood the question was in regards to fertility rates within the population
There was no where for me to acknowledge 10 other pregnancies
The number of babies stillborn after 20 weeks gestation is recorded nationally, however, there is no mechanism for recording earlier deaths.
I took a moment to reflect
How many other woman were out there?
Like me, finding this question so hard to answer
Or
Who like me created an extra box and acknowledged their losses
Yesterday I handed this quilt over to my friend
And gave her a hug and held her close
We share a bond, an understanding
Pregnant for the 7th time
With a little boy
This will be her 3rd live birth
21 comments:
*Hugs* There are no words...
Big hugs xxx
beautiful Cat.... I thought of you on census night. I have no framework for your losses but I send you the love I have xxxx
Love you sweetsxx
I objected to the same box because I did not birth Rubi but I am mother to him. I ticked the *bugger off for the stupid way you phrased this question* "I object to answering this question" box. With a tick and not a dumb slash I may add.
Hugs to you. Beautiful quilt. I also found that question upsetting ...
That would have been hard xxx....I actually looked at box too and wondered the same thing. It makes that quilt that much more special....so cute for a little boy :)
What a beautiful quilt for your friend. So tough. Cx
Beautifully worded post, and a beautiful quilt.
It's a beautiful quilt Cat.
I objected to that question - not because of any personal experience but because I know there are so many ladies out there, like yourself, who would be upset by the way it was wording. There's also a petition online to have them change the wording. Let me know if you want me to try and find the link.
Hugs.
beautiful quilt.
very sad for your heartache.
bloggy love.
Xx
Tough post. I did have question in my mind when I too saw this question for those going through what you have also experienced. xxxxx
P.S on a cheery note your blog is looking lovely!!
Great quilt Cat.. Im sure it will be treasured by your friend x
Lots of love to you Cat. I could not comprehend the kind of loss and devastation you and other women must feel. xo
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the new NEW look!
((((((((hugs))))))))
There are no words... every time Luke and I hear another story of loss, we look at each other and wonder how you move on. It is beyond us, and our hearts go out to you and others who have experienced loss.
Good for you creating an extra box, it will make them think beyond the square. hugs, k.
Cat Big Hugs and to everyone else that has gone through this.beautiful quilt.
your such a wonderful person.
hugs xo
p.s love your blog look !
Loving your quilt and thinking of you..
Hugz
Maria XXX
Cat this is the first time I've heard this part of your motherhood journey - bless you precious lady xx
Wow. I visited your blog from Sunshinex3 as the quilt looked great. But what an amazing statement on Census night. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your friend and I am thrilled that she is cared for enough that she will be able to celebrate her boys life. Regards Karen
Wow what a beautiful quilt and an even more beautiful gift for a special friend. xxxx
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